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Wed, Jul. 14th, 2010 06:27 pm

I write like
William Gibson

I Write Like by Mémoires, Mac journal software. Analyze your writing!


Mon, Apr. 26th, 2010 03:39 pm

Hopefully I'll have some photos to share! In the meantime, I randomly found this sexy video of us playing at the Chapel Arts centre:


Thu, Jan. 28th, 2010 12:03 pm

To quote Heinlein, "A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects."

Oh and a summary of Raymond Carver short stories:

"We are, all of us, abominably human. We are broken and we are flawed and even we ourselves barely recognize the degree to which this is true.

And Love is this concept that, in its platonic ideal form, makes over other people and conceals those flaws and convinces us for brief moments that, Hey, perhaps this Other is not so flawed, is not broken, is not abominably just-like-me.

And then we realize they are; and then they realize we are. But sometimes it's just nice to be broken and flawed with someone. And it's nice to have someone to get fucked up on bourbon and fall asleep half-naked on the couch with.

And sometimes it's nice to just pretend we're not so flawed and broken and abominable. And it's this concept of Love that is the problem, after all. We are broken and flawed and we created a broken and flawed concept because we have brains able to dream of things beyond ourselves and to imagine the nonexistent.

But we have our bourbon and our couches and half of our clothes, so that's okay. It's really all okay. "

Love it.


Fri, Nov. 27th, 2009 12:27 pm

Yanked from a Jez commenter:

My kids are getting ONE toy each for Christmas from "santa" (ie us). Something nice that they really want (A lego fire station, a doll house and a new scooter respectively). They each get four things in all:

Something they WANT,
Something they NEED,
Something to WEAR
and something to READ.

It actually works really well. And I find they are less overwhelmed and really appreciate the stuff more. Let's face it, once you get past a few gifts the thrill is gone and it all just starts to feel kind of gross and gluttonous.

I like it! And it rhymes!


Tue, Oct. 20th, 2009 08:10 am

My letter to Jenny Kwan, my local representative.

Hello Ms. Kwan,

First of all I would like to say thank you once again for your work and presence in our provincial legislature. I'm proud to have worked on your campaign as a volunteer and cast my vote for you for the 2nd time in a row that I've lived in your constituency.

I just had a few questions about the Bill 13 that is going up for a final read in parliament. This bill apparently will allow authorities the ability to enter private homes and remove anti olympic signage. They would still have to give 24 hours notice but still, it would result in private homes being broken into - for what? To remove anything that might be considered in opposition to the olympics.

I don't know why there isn't more of an uproar about this bill! It's incredibly difficult to even find any information about it. The media is being very vague. Any resources that your office has about this bill would be appreciated and I would seriously urge you to rally opposition to this bill. Please get the media involved, please get the public informed! It seems as though no one knows anything about this and are incredulous that the BC government would even consider enacting this kind of law.

I really don't have an issue with protesters not being allowed within a certain distance of olympic venues - they can set up barriers like they would do at a conference or world leaders summit. But protesting should be allowed elsewhere in the city and signage should not be forcibly removed from private homes. It is important that we as a province still recognize a need for vocal opposition, discussion and debate in order to encourage balanced and well vetted laws. We in Canada don't have a large overarching "Freedom of Speech" amendment as they do in the United States but we still have our Fundamental freedoms as guaranteed by the Charter of Rights and Freedoms:

Fundamental freedoms

2. Everyone has the following fundamental freedoms:

(a) freedom of conscience and religion;

(b) freedom of thought, belief, opinion and expression, including freedom of the press and other media of communication;

(c) freedom of peaceful assembly; and

(d) freedom of association.

Bill 13 would go against our freedom of opinion and expression and banning protesting outright would fly in the face of our freedom of peaceful assembly. I do believe that we can engage in demonstrations that highlight some of the injustices that the olympics perpetuate (in our case massive co-optation of Indiginous land and symbols, gross and unchecked expenditures of public funds and more) in a way that does not encourage violence, only discourse.

Please vote no on Bill 13.

Many thanks and warm regards,
Christina Rzepa

The charter of rights and freedoms: http://laws.justice.gc.ca/en/charter/

Anti Olympic peaceful organization for opposition @ Rhizome Cafe October 23: http://noii-van.resist.ca/?p=1390

Some vague info on Bill 13: http://www.xtra.ca/public/Vancouver/Bill_targets_antiOlympic_signage-7640.aspx


Thu, Oct. 8th, 2009 04:32 pm

I wanted to smash up shoppers drug mart yesterday so badly.

I was looking for moisturiser and saw a nice normal looking one that was on sale. It was just a basic sunscreen thing, very simple looking. But then I read the label that said:

"This product is for Transition skin, the skin in between teenage acne and intense anti-ageing"

Fuck off, moisturiser. It's like - oh look your demographic doesn't have a label or enough products marketed to it so here's something to tide you over before you get into INTENSE ANTI AGEING therapies. If you stopped spending money on tonnes of skin care products for a short time you might forget how HIDEOUS you are.

And so much anti-age products are getting targeted to my age group! As a preventative measure! Because you can prevent GROWING OLD.

I didn't realize that superman was flying backwards around the planet or something every time you squeezed some crap out of a tube.


Mon, Oct. 5th, 2009 10:28 am

Can everyone out there in LJ land take a second to help out my friend Shawna?

Her act, Adaline, I've mentioned her a billion times on my bog, is in the Peak Performance Project. She stands to win $150,000 (!!!!) for music related projects. She has worked so hard to get to where she is now and really deserves to win this prize. Really really.

Please go to www.peakperformanceproject.com and click on the "Vote Now" top right of page. You can see the results! She's leading but polls have only been open for 30 minutes.

Thank you!


Wed, Sep. 23rd, 2009 10:14 am

Not too terribly edgy of a bio but we're applying to small town folk festivals:

With a series of handmade guitars, a fretless bass and a cello, The Gentle Infidels offer a unique take on contemporary folk music. They draw influence from iconic rock acts such as Led Zeppelin and Canadian band The Tea Party, as well as more subdued guitar-driven artists like Burt Jansch and Leo Kotke. A thread of Indian classical music comes through in the alternate guitar tunings used in each song, while their tightly locked rhythms and unusual song structures speak to a love of complex progressive rock. This music is fluid and melancholic, driving and intense. On stage, The Gentle Infidels take the energy of a symphony and compress it down into three instruments. They are ready to burst with enthusiasm and good humour while professionally delivering a high-energy performance.

In November 2007, guitarist and songwriter Ed Bond was planning to sell his stage gear and focus on building his Tinker guitars. But first, he had to play one show, solo, to showcase the songs that just wouldn't leave his head. His long time friend from music school, bassist Ferdy Belland, was in attendance that night, and heard something very unique in Ed's music. It was something that he couldn't let fall by the wayside, and something that he wanted to be a part of. Ferdy joined Ed with his 5-string fretless bass and added intuitive countermelodies to Ed's solid guitar structure. The duo played several shows together around Vancouver. Still, there was something missing that would blend the low and high ends of the band together. Ferdy asked his friend and cellist-about-town Christina Rzepa to listen in on a performance at the Railway club. She was impressed by what she heard and The Gentle Infidels as a trio were formed that night. After two weeks of intensive studying, Christina added her dark Slavic cello stylings to the music and the band recorded their first set of demos with Felix Fung at Little Red Studios.

Since their formation, The Gentle Infidels have been captivating audiences with their intense live performances. Their compact stage setup has allowed them to perform in a variety of locations, from the Railway club and other established rock venues, to art galleries, radio booths, coffee shops and living rooms around Vancouver. They have travelled to the Sunshine Coast, Vancouver Island and the Kootenays in British Columbia and intend to push their boundaries into the United States and Europe.

The Gentle Infidels' music fits well with a variety of sonic styles. They have been the opening act for punk shows, and finished the night off at acoustic singer-songwriter events. They have had the pleasure of sharing a stage with notable Canadian artists: Cara Luft and Hugh McMillan, Birch-Neve-Young, Tuck, Mahogany Frog, Dan Mangan, David Gannet, Adaline, and more.

Currently, The Gentle Infidels are hard at work on their first full length record, titled "Indolents and Insolents" due for release in winter 2009.

For futher information, please visit www.myspace.com/gentleinfidels (contact info redacted)


Tue, Sep. 22nd, 2009 07:25 am

the gentle infidels are an exercise in contradictions
the gentle infidels formed out of a rejection of art, a reclaiming of friendship and a discovery of passion
the gentle infidels take folk music (on a really swanky date) to the symphony
the gentle infidels shroud folk music in mystery
the gentle infidels make rock music sit down
the gentle infidels make folk music jump out of its chair
the gentle infidels take a solid guitar base (not to be confused with its bass) and add two fluid instruments on its flanks - the gentle infidels are an atom - bass and cello as darting electrons around a structured guitar driven proton
the gentle infidels practice 15 string theory

(I feel as though I am writing a Tom Robbins novel)

the gentle infidels derive their inspiration from acoustic led zeppelin, the tea party and a Russian symphonic opus - a Tea Party with Jimmy Page and Tchaikovsky?

(but I'm still trying to find that best opening line)

the gentle infidels want to play at your folk music festival, please
the gentle infidels rock you harder sitting down than most acts rock you standing up (it's been said, it doesn't REALLY make sense but I had to put it down to get it out of the way)
the gentle infidels want to see the passion in your fashion (too much PR Australia)

(ok, let's focus here...)

the gentle infidels saw too much and did too little and wrote songs about it
the gentle infidels came, saw and conquered (concord - we reached an agreement?)
the gentle infidels are a dark folk steed emerging from the mist
the gentle infidels take folk music, flip it on its back, and show it a damn fine time
the gentle infidels entertain countess, priestess and whore with the finest wine
the gentle infidels enjoy darkness and light and all of the ambiguous spaces in between - we can all get lost in there together
the gentle infidels explore the darker parts of the human condition and illuminate what needs to be revealed
the gentle infidels condensed an orchestra into three instruments

Three instruments: a hand made, trial and error tested guitar (or four, depending on tuning), a fretless bass that sings melodies dark and sweet, and a cello becoming the mortar between bricks low and high.


Mon, Sep. 14th, 2009 09:56 pm

"Men and women want the same things from sex—closeness, pleasure, validation, a sense of adequacy. Sexually, men and women are distressed about the same things—performance anxiety, insufficient information, not feeling attractive enough, difficulties communicating honestly.

And there’s no point in understanding “men” or “women” (like such a thing is possible!), since no one has sex with “men” or “women.” We have sex with George or Maria or even both, but we don’t have sex with some abstract group of 100 million people. For better sex, learn more about the person(s) you’re with, not “men” or “women”."

Sex is not the enemy - lots of very NSFW genderfuckery, general fuckery, nudity, loveliness.


Wed, Aug. 26th, 2009 01:28 pm


Tue, Aug. 11th, 2009 09:20 am

Tonight - 7:30 pm PST on Melodies and Minds on CJSF fm: http://www.cjsf.ca/

Thursday - 2 pm PST on the Peak http://www.thepeak.fm/

You can stream both stations, I believe!

Both are promos for the upcoming Adaline show at the Rio Theatre, a big ass orchestral event (string quartet and horn section all done up in a very epic fashion). If you live in Vancouver please come! It will be super rad.


Tue, Jul. 28th, 2009 09:09 am

Last Saturday caught on the webcam looking at Burrard Bridge - we had an epic lightning storm and fireworks all in one night. I love how the sky turned BRIGHT orange, it looks like the sun exploded.


Tue, Jul. 7th, 2009 12:11 pm

The Vancouver Women's Health Collective just opened a new pharmacy on West Hastings called "Lu's: a pharmacy for women". I was pretty happy to see it, as the collective has been shut down for a while.

Then, I read that the pharmacy will exclude health care services for trans women, only catering to women born as women. I did a bit of research as well on their website, and it's not very clear what their stance is. It's almost deliberately obscured that they only cater to cisgendered-women. I saw it noted in a newsletter that they only serve "women born women".

So yeah, I had no idea about that, and I really really dislike policies like that. Thanks for fighting for easier access to health care only to set up another barrier for a woman just because you don't think she's really a woman. I can think of many pharmaceutical services that a trans woman would use (regular non gender related perscriptions like heart medication, allergy stuff, etc) and what about pills for hormone replacement? The pharmacy says that they deal with menopause concerns, a lot of information that could be applicable to trans women as well. How about just a nice non judgmental atmosphere to obtain health care? Not for everyone!

Also, the fact that they're operating in the Downtown East Side, catering to women experiencing violence and barriers to care re: the sex trade, drug addition and homelessness...I could see that being incredibly applicable to trans women as well. So trans women aren't welcome in women's spaces, or men's spaces...where then?

So, I wrote a letter:

Hello there - I was thrilled to drive past your new location at Lu's pharmacy on West Hastings the other day. I thought it was an amazing idea and am always happy to see women's health care taken seriously.

However, I was very disappointed to hear that both the pharmacy and the Vancouver Women's Health Collective as a whole is a service for only cis-women, women born in women's bodies and identifying as women. I have used your services many times and was never aware of this. I have also donated to the collective on several occasions.

I find this policy incredibly exclusionary, especially for a group that proposes (from your website) to offer "health for all women in an equitable society". Your website also states: "We know that women are still underserved by the current health care model, and we know that certain women face considerable barriers to accessing quality health care, which include poverty, addiction, racism, and sexism, among others" - trans women would also come across many of these barriers to care. Now, you have erected one more.

As a cis-woman myself I can't imagine the humiliation that a trans woman might go through going into Lu's pharmacy, needing health care services and being turned away due to the prejudice of your staff and/or policies. I therefore propose that you include an obvious disclaimer in your information and advertisements: Lu's pharmacy: a pharmacy for women born as women. Just to keep it all clear, distinct, and separate from a pharmacy that would offer services to ALL women.

I would be interested to hear more about why you have chosen this rather inequitable stance on who you limit your services to. I also wish that this statement was more blatantly displayed on your website. This way, trans women looking for a supportive place to receive health care services in a non judgmental environment would know to avoid Lu's pharmacy and the health collective in general. Allies of trans women, such as myself, could also be informed of your policies and choose elsewhere to access information about health services.

It is a shame to remove yet another of my personal options for access to health care as well. As you know, resources such as yours are incredibly helpful and necessary, as well as rare. Unfortunately my annual donations will be directed elsewhere until such a time as this policy changes.



Edited to add: Meghan linked to the article in the Province. The comments are reprehensible. That is not necessary. I may have issues with the centre and will not in good conscience donate money to them now that I am aware of their anti-trans policy. But the pharmacy can and should still exist. I'm sure people will use it. I just want them to be really clear that they don't cater to trans women.

For example: "As a female I find it embarassing that this pharmacy is open. It is discriminating to men. It is one thing to fight for equality, but it is unreal how many women are being so demeaning to men. Wake up ladies, your worse than they are."

For the fuck of shit...really? How is a pharmacy somehow demeaning to men? And, I'll say, if there was a men's only pharmacy offering a side room for prostate examinations to prevent cancer in a non-scary/clinical environment and offering consultations on men's health I would be all for it. Preventative medicine is a good thing.


Sun, Jun. 21st, 2009 05:55 pm

This makes my day


Mon, Jun. 15th, 2009 05:28 pm


Mon, Jun. 15th, 2009 04:38 pm

My coworker randomly searched the radio and came up with 104.1 FM...so far, I think it's the best station in the city. Today I have heard Neko Case, Teagan and Sarah, Radiohead, a bunch of old school blues, some good classic rock, and some lovely Indie Rock stuff that I loved listening to and had to go run and look up the artists.

There's seriously a dearth of good radio in this town and we were listening to soft rock at work and so the discovery of something that everyone in the office likes to listen to (and has very few commericals and basically no talk) is really super.

I wonder if it's a JACK FM type i-pod (without any kind of dj) station...if so, that would explain the lack of chatter.

Anyway, just thought I'd pass on the reccomendation. You can stream it online too.


Tue, Jun. 9th, 2009 12:06 pm

Apparently So

I find it strange. They ranked the cities of the world based on "health-care, stability, culture and environment, education and infrastructure". The survey says that "Any city with a score above 80 percent "will have few, if any, challenges to living standards,"

Nothing about our high HIV infection population, high child poverty rates, high homelessness and drug addiction rates?

I get how this city is leaps and bounds better than living elsewhere in the world but looking at only these factors seems to ignore a hell of a lot.

Any demographically minded folks care to comment?


Thu, Jun. 4th, 2009 04:38 pm

Matthew Good has a really well written piece about Vancouver and the Downtown East Side. How it came to be, why it is growing and what could possibly be done.

Please do read it!


Mon, Jun. 1st, 2009 09:07 am

A heartbreaking article from a woman explaining the reasons behind her late-term abortion: here

Just something to highlight and remind us that late term abortions are almost always done due to a tragic complication in fetal development. This children are wanted, and it makes the decision so much more difficult but usually there is no other choice. If the child dies in the womb it could kill the mother.

Dr. Tiller was one of the few providers of this service and now is unable to continue his heroic work.

I'm so thankful that abortion is safe and legal in Canada.

I am going to write to my MP and our Prime Minister to reiterate how important it is to keep it that way.

I am making a donation to Planned Parenthood in Kansas. Oh Kansas, I'm sorry that you have the Phelps family too...apparently they protested a VIGIL for Dr. Tiller. Assholes. I wish you still had Sibelius in your state to say something to this but as the Secretary of Health (right?) she could make a statement about just how important it is to make abortion safe and legal federally?

Do you think writing to any American politicians would be helpful? Even though I'm Canadian? Who would I direct it to?


Wed, May. 27th, 2009 02:05 pm

Plus - what did I see lots of at the Gorge:

"tree of wisdom" tattoos on girls backs
underage cleavage
lots of angel wing tattoos
so many Canadian flag tattoos, Canadian flags, attached to really obnoxious Canadians (they sang "O Canada" in between sets on the main stage. If Americans had come to a Canadian festival and done that they would be called obnoxious and boorish and stuff)
"Where the wild things are" t shirts (awesome)
people asking for drugs
no one actually ON drugs (except for dancing guy and the aforementioned musicians)

The Stranger's takes on:
Overheard at Sasquatch
Full Commentary on Jane's Addiction complete with a picture of the man, his ascot, and maracas. The reviewer found it NOT funny, which is stupid. Plain and simple. If a random dude was acting like this, yeah, maybe it's embarrassing if you give a crap about what other people think about other people, but this guy is a ROCK STAR on stage, and it was just...wonderful.
A sober recap
Lindy West's recap (much more humorous)
"Biggest Disappointment:
Dave Navarro's completely normal denim pants.
(What is even the point of you, Navarro,
if you're not wearing the skin of a baby dragon
laced together with Anton LaVey's mustache hair?
God, look at your stupid face.)"

Most of these say similar things so you all probably don't care. I just wanted to collect it all in one place.

More videos including the couple screwing on the hill:Collapse )

My slight sunburn is already a tan. Score.


Tue, May. 26th, 2009 12:19 pm

I love The Stranger in Seattle. I have the Slog on my Google Reader, and I was hoping for some Sasquatch posts. I was not disappointed.

First of all, my favourite part of the whole festival was when the Murder City Devils lead singer told off the crowd:

"After playing "I Want a Lot Now (So Come On)," Moody roared, "A lot now, we play these shows in front of a lot of people, and I see a lot of gross, disgusting high school jocks in the audience. But what we do is for all the beautiful faggots, and the rest of you can all eat a big bowl of wet dicks."

Semi-coherent transcript

Spencer Moody thoughts.

He made out with some audience members and rolled around on stage yelling a lot.

However, some people were not impressed - and perhaps rightly so, I wouldn't really want to get face fucked by a drunk guy...but I just felt a lot of satisfaction at his yelling at the crowd. Some commenters were saying "I didn't see all the jocks" but trust me, Moody NAILED it. He said a lot of what I was saying over the weekend - lots of rich white meathead guys were in attendance and being kind of aggressive and not really facilitating a safe-feeling environment, for me.

It was the first time during the weekend that I felt like I was at an actual ROCK show...he took the opportunity to address a crowd of people that weren't really there to see him play, the kind of people that would beat him up in the hall but now had to pay money to come watch him, and berate them a bit. I found it hilarious and would probably do the same thing if I was in his shoes. The targeted audience that is feeling upset and offended can check a bit of their privilege at the door for once. Though, admittedly, attacking all straight people with some comments could be seen as a bad move, potentially alienating allies, but this was a ROCK SHOW, not a support rally, and Moody took some license to vent. I applaud him.

Kelly O's Top Ten Moments with pictures

Apparently the Monotonix were Spectacular - I saw the Fleet Foxes instead and am really pleased with my decision. They were beautiful. Very Crosby Stills and Nash. But, bare asses!

People had sex during the Decemberists set! Tee hee! The band was kind of ripped apart in the reviews but damn, I love them so so so much. Their latest album is a Pink Floyd-ish Rock Opera and they played the whole thing from start to finish really skillfully. I will purchase this record. The female vocalists were outstanding!

Other highlights

Professional Photos

Hey Dreadnoughts! Mangina!!...I didn't see this set but Bob says it was amazing. More photos from King Khan and the Shrines

Some people had way too much fun - this guy did this ALL Saturday...and then again on Sunday.

There's lots of stuff on Youtube if you follow the links.

It was a rather homoerotic festival...Perry Farrel from Jane's Addiction was definitely another highlight. Some phrases that I can remember. These were all delivered with utmost sincerity and the best tone of voice ever...I do hope someone has these recorded as well:

"We're all gathered here tonight, experimenting with various doorways of perception" (translation, he was ripped on Acid)

"Is anyone here wearing any underwear?"

"Who's got a snake? I've got a snake...want to ride the snake? The snake chases the pig and bites the piggy's ass"

"Playing here makes my dick get so hard...and you're all so wet and you smell amazing"

"You're all so beautiful! What a sea full of lovers! What you should do tonight is go back to each other's tents, take out each other's cocks...and don't worry, some men's are bigger than others. That's just life. But you don't need to fuck a woman very deeply to make her feel good, am I right? (cheers) I have a friend who is a midget and he fucks women with his fist...but you know, it also doesn't hurt to be OCEAN sized!" (they start playing "Ocean")

(After he said that he cracked up a bit, he couldn't keep a straight face) The best part was that he always was able to bring it back to the next song's title.

"If you're going to throw things at me please throw drugs. Weed is good...I'll take anything...smaller than that. I don't think I could even handle panties at this point. Wait...you've been here for 3 days right? Definitely no panties."

They were really really amazing live. Dave Navarro, as usual, rocks my ass with his solos and shiny nipple rings. The bass player wore a Bea Arthur t-shirt. Perry Farrel NAILED his vocals - his range is so wide and his tone is so strong. Even though he was running around, drinking a whole bottle of wine, doing flips off of the drum set, he nailed every vocal cue. Just wonderful.

I'll post links to the bands that I didn't know before I saw them live and just loved, plus some more highlights, later on today.


Wed, May. 20th, 2009 03:10 pm

Huzzah! I did it! That was a looong ceremony.

When we went to pick up our gowns and get into our order the man organizing it was so condescending. He was all "I know you're arts students so you might have trouble organizing yourselves in number order".

I got to wear a black grad gown with my faculty of arts colours (blue in this case) on a hood. Pretty neat.

All of the faculty wear crazy ass robes. They look like Wizards. I felt like I was in Hogwarts.

A dude got an honorary degree - he had a nobel prize and was knighted by the Queen. I bet an honorary degree from UBC just got tossed in the pile with the others to collect dust. Tee hee.

The chancellor's speech was all about Susan Boyle from Britain's got talent - she actually took the time to explain how the reality tv show worked and who the judges were and stuff. Her point eventually was that we can't judge a book by it's cover or some platitude. It was a really really bad speech, unfortunately.

The university president talked about Charles Darwin a lot. He was a good speaker, like a kindly uncle, but there was also not much point - he tried to show that humans are motivated by many things, not just one thing. Gee, thanks!

The same organizer guy said to me when it was about my turn to walk across the stage "oh, Women's studies hey? All you ladies studying other ladies, how nice!" I said "look at my legitimate degree, Sir" and walked across the stage.

They pronounced my last name right!

I went to shake the Dean of Art's hand - now she and I have an interesting relationship because she used to come in to the coffee shop I worked at a lot. We joked that I was an arts student so I was learning all about making coffee, har har. Then when I declared my major as women's studies and told her she didn't like to talk to me any more. She doesn't like that program and has been trying to cut it for years, apparently. I asked her about that one time (to see what her actual position was) but she didn't want to answer my questions.
When I walked across to shake her hand she said "Oh, Christina, why, you're still here?" (it was 4 years ago that I used to make her coffee, and I had been out of school on a break for a long time so I guess she just thought I was already done) and I said "I'm not here any more - thanks!"

When the chancellor said "now, class of 2009...I ADMIT YOU"...I almost cried. It felt so so so good.

I got a picture of myself with the giant copper plated carved ceremonial mace. Also, I got to keep my grad hat (whats it called - mortarboard?).

My grandma gave me a beautiful weaving that my grandpa did when I was about 10 - it's an owl. I love it! Wow, Owls!

My grandma actually liked my dress too, though she also said it belonged in a nightclub and I should sew straps on to it because I have a "formidable bust" - I will take it as a compliment!

Our alumni gift was a business card holder - for our FUTURE!

Anyway, I thought it was rather rad. I will post pictures when I get them.

What should I do with my degree? Frame it? Display it somewhere? It's just a BA so it seems like a pretentious douchey thing to frame it and just put it in my apartment, you know?


Mon, May. 4th, 2009 10:20 pm

Ok, so I've been drinking wine and reading blogs which doesn't always result in a coherent thought pattern, but riddle me this world:

There are tons of benefits that one gets when they get married, that mostly pertain to being their partner's sole support person in times of medical emergency, death, etc. Great, if some couples in long term relationships get them then all couples in the same kind of relationships should get them, obviously.


There's something that strikes me as bullying - the system of marriage is basically saying that one has to get married to gain these benefits. Being single doesn't count, living in 2 separate places but having a super long term thing doesn't count, and in Canada, even though common law relationships (in BC living together for 3 years) gives a great deal of the benefits there are still a few outstanding things that you can't claim without a hassle - mostly having to do with if one partner paid a lot of money to support the other and wants some kind of compensation.

I don't know. I think in Canada there's a lot more flexibility in terms of visitation rights in the hospital, and we recognize common law partnerships in every province to have many of the same rights. I know that when I went to Ed in the ER they had me sit down and register him because he needed an epi shot right away. We don't live together at all, they just asked if I was here looking after him and I said yes. Like I said, I didn't even remember his street address right away, but I was able to to go in and hang out with him while he was being shot full of drugs.

But then I read stuff like this from people in the states:
"I know! My now fiance slipped on ice coming home from work a few years ago and woke up in the hospital 2 days later. The hospital called no one. He even had "In case of Emergency" programed in his phone which was his parents #, but the nurses said legally they could call no one but a spouse since he was over 18. We were just friends at the time, but it still freaks me out to think of him laying on the Boston street unconscious. To this day he still has no idea who called 911."

What the FUCK? Really? I know that in Canada you can list your next of kin to be your parents and it's no issue. But basically it's saying that in the US if you're single and over 18 you don't count as a person unless you're in a coupled relationship.

Lots of people on this thread are saying how it's easier to be married because of all the hoops you have to jump through if you're in some kind of committed relationship. But that just seems like one would basically have no choice but to get married to avoid legal trouble or emotional shittiness (like in the case of a couple who are estranged from their family, one partner getting sick and the family swooping in and shutting the other partner out) which seems like a whole lot of coercion to adhere to the present system - don't you think?

I'm not against it one way or the other but it's certainly food for thought...


Thu, Apr. 16th, 2009 10:43 pm

Super creamy brie (we had Qualicum Islands brie, which is incidentally served on a scrap of guitar wood from a nearby luthier) + Maple Butter (from Montreal's Jean-Talon market) + pine nuts served on a cracker with a sip of oaked Chardonnay (in this instance, Kettle Valley 2006 Chardonnay from Naramata) = mouthgasm!

The video of Paul Potts and Susan Boyle are very similar in the crowd reaction and judge comments. Person comes on stage, has a rather ordinary back story, enjoys singing, never had the chance to get noticed for it, looks unconventionally plain (bigger eyebrows, crooked teeth, both are somewhat overweight), crowd and judges roll their eyes. Then they sing. Both sing incredibly dramatic songs and everyone goes apeshit. And rightly so, because they're both really great singers. It's just funny that everyone is like OMG SUSAN BOYLE melted everyone's heart...when it happened last year too.

Whatever, there's a billion comments about Susan Boyle ranging from "wow don't judge a book by it's cover, it's a lesson for us all" to "how inspiring that a fat ugly person could ALSO be talented" (blech) to "she's a good singer for sure but she's only getting so much press because she's not considered to be attractive, you shallow fuckwits". I just want her to come to my house and sing me to sleep. Les Miserables is...well, I honestly do think it's the best musical out there...and anyone who sings the songs with such conviction gets a big thumbs up from me. Hooray!

(Also, Ed draws my attention to an MSNBC headline "The 47 year old we're all supposed to love!" lauding her for...what, being old? As if being 47 normally means that you shouldn't be heard from or shouldn't be doing anything worthwhile? Fuck that noise. What about "the singer we all love" or something? The "supposed to" just sounds sarcastic.)